Couples Massage as Therapy

“The best thing I would share – and have shared with friends – is that I was expecting to learn a little bit of massage technique (physical). Walked away wowed by how, in that short amount of time, it became the most intimate education in effective communication and responsiveness to one another. Twenty-five years of marriage and many therapists over the years at challenging times in our lives, and I swear, we never ever came out of any of those appointments feeling so closely and intimately connected in every way. 

I can hardly verbalize how effective just a few moments became for each of us in clarifying things we struggled to say to each other for decades that became clear in a single moment laying on that table. It was mystifying and I was blown away. As we walked to the car, Sarah was remarking that she had recently been contemplating what activity the two of us might do together to regain some intimacy in our marriage and couldn’t believe what just happened on that table in bringing us closer together than we had felt in years. It was truly amazing for the connection that was reestablished in those few hours.

As we had lunch together, I contemplated that part of the experience may very well have been the humility that swept over me. The moment I started running my fingers through her hair, I immediately felt a little humbled at how I didn’t have as natural a touch as I remember I likely once had. And, yet, at lunch I felt a comfort that I could share that with Sarah and express the need to hear her feedback in a way that was specific, as you had instructed, but not coming across in a way that would humiliate when someone is already feeling vulnerable. And these awarenesses were happening in moments and with such few words. It was awesome! ”